Conception, Pregnancy and Birth – Getting Through the Cycle

One of the greatest joys of being a woman is that you are capable of creating and carrying life, a little bundle of joy who is an integral part of you for the better part of nine months and who promises immense joy and happiness. But then, not all pregnancies run a smooth course; some falter at the start only to enjoy an uneventful ride to the finish line; others however, fail for some reason or the other. There are times when mistakes could have been avoided and others when no preventive measure works. Whatever the reason for the loss, the key is to get past it and move on to thinking of the next pregnancy as soon as you’re healthy enough. And to this end, here are a few things that help make the process easier are:
  • Letting go of the past and focusing on the future – when you’re hung up on what happened and your mind is filled with post mortem analyzes of what could have been and why things went wrong, you don’t allow yourself to move forward. This is not only detrimental to your mental health but also disadvantageous when it comes to planning for your next child. Your fears of failure again become irrational and raise your stress levels to undesirable heights. So forget the past, and think of what needs to be done next.
  • Identifying mistakes that were made in the past and ensuring that they’re not repeated this time round – when you avoid carelessness and negligence, a whole lot of mistakes and oversights can be prevented. Talk to your doctor and find out what you need to do to ensure that you don’t lose the next baby you conceive. Enlist the support of friends and family members to help out in any way they can.
  • Doing all you can to avoid stress and worry during the time you’re trying to conceive and after that until the baby’s born – stress is the biggest killer of pregnancy; it either causes you to abort or does irreparable damage to your mental health and the wellbeing of your child. So learn to relax and let go of all that is bothering you, and your pregnancy will happen soon enough.
Even though you’re actively planning the pregnancy and preparing for a baby’s arrival in your mind, the best way to ensure that you conceive is to forget that you’re trying to make a baby. Go about your normal routine as you would every day, unless of course it causes too much stress and you need to find ways to tone down the intensity of your schedule and relax more often. Schedule romantic interludes that reduce stress and boost the production of hormones that are conducive to conception and pregnancy, and which enhance your mood and leave you feeling good about yourself. And last, but most important of all, stop thinking about what was and what will be; instead, focus on the here and now, enjoy your life, live in the moment, and be rewarded with another bundle of joy.